Sometimes I wish the ball was always in my court. Why is it that guys get to be the ones to call/text and ask us girls out? (Although, I do love chivalry, so I'm not really complaining. Granted, I have done my fair share of break-ups. Ending things with someone is never easy. I'm sure being on the receiving end is even worse. Over the last few years I have really worked on trying to become a better person. I try to surround myself with people who help me achieve that. Many of my friends help me to be better by pulling me out of my lazy phases- when I just want to sit on my couch and "veg out" in front of the TV. And then, there is my cousin. She is an incredible person. She will ALWAYS be one of the best people I know. She has always been involved in non-profit work and volunteering, even during the time she was in sales after college. She is adventurous and has been all over the world. But most of all, she is a great friend, and she pushes me to want to be a better person. What's ironic is that she pushes without "pushing".
Most recently, she has encouraged me to eliminate the "fade away." For those of you who don't know, that basically means that when you have decided you are through with someone, it is important to call them and let them know. I have utilized the fade away countless times. It has actually been used on me several times- though with the exception of one person I can think of off the top of my head, most fade-aways have been quite welcomed.
Let me tell you, picking up the phone and calling someone to end a relationship is awful. Doing it in person is even worse. I actually feel worse for boys (those who are man enough to use the break up method rather than the fad away) because girls are far more emotional when they hear the news.
Anyway, because the fade away is so often used by everyone, it is impossible to know if someone is actually going to call you, or if they are using my previously relied upon method. Enter "the waiting game." Why even ask for someone's number if you're not going to use it? I don't know- but that's just what we do. Life would be so much easier if we were all honest up front. You get a number that you don't plan to use- send a text- "sorry, not really interested, but it was great meeting you." HA! As if I'll ever do that... but hey, a girl can dream, right?! Maybe one day that will be the social norm.
Clearly I haven't heard from the guy I fell in love with on Christmas Eve. Is he doing the fade away? If so, why did he make sure he had my number correct several times? If not, then why hasn't he called or texted?
As much as I love being single and find dating fun, there are days when I feel neither of these things. Today is one of them. But then of course, I get to thinking... what do married people have to entertain themselves with? Oh yea, MY stories! Life goes on.
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